Ненасильственное общение. Nonviolent communication

С методом Маршалла Розенберга я познакомилась много лет назад. Он мне тогда показался немного примитивным, механическим и неискренним. Потому что необходимость проговаривать свои эмоции, потребности и ясное высказывание того, чего я хочу от другого человека без манипуляций, претензий и ожидания, что всё будет по-моему (иначе зачем эта упакованная в угрозу просьба) выглядела для меня ну, […] Ненасильственное общение. Nonviolent communication

Лучезарное здоровье

Здоровье это ведь не про то, чтобы не болеть. Это то качество жизни, к которому все стремятся чтобы: было легко, чтобы с утра было хорошее настроение и полно сил, чтобы никакие проблемы не омрачали жизнь, а наоборот, были теми пресловутым уроками и вызывали лишь азарт. Это когда так волшебно работает интуиция, ты в потоке жизни, […] Лучезарное здоровье

Отношения с музыкальной фразой

Общение с собой весьма занятная штука. Любое отношение и действие — это акт самопознания души. Нет ничего и никого другого. Лишь я и мой нынешний урок жизни. Такое неодинокое одиночество, в котором приятно познавать вкус вина, или прикидываться, что уже раздегустировала оттенок чернослива и земляники, нотки освещенного солнцем склона и запах дубовой бочки. В котором […] Отношения с музыкальной фразой

Беременная тишина или исцеление шизофренической личности

Дверь, за которой содержится всё и вся, так близко, но к ней идешь всю жизнь. Она внутри. К ней так сложно повернуться лицом. Как во сне пытаешься двигаться, бежать, но ничего не получается. Потому что то, что способно нас развернуть к этой волшебной двери благости и изобилия — наш ум — погружен в такую картину […] Беременная тишина или исцеление шизофренической личности

From the body-oriented worldview to the integral worldview

I’ve been thinking of writing this post long ago. I was a diligent researcher on Kazimierz Dabrowki’s Theory of Positive Disintegration for the needs of my thesis about the personal development in the democratic society. I’ve read almost all his books in Polish and all possible articles in English (what an amazing personality he was!) […] From the body-oriented worldview to the integral worldview

Dharma and Integral Worldview

Some circumstances drive us to the limits of our understanding of the world. We find out questions that have no answers, and deep inside we feel the answer requires some strange efforts and this make us feel scared. The allusions from the unknown and invisible world appear like flashes of memories from unknown past and […] Dharma and Integral Worldview

dharma and integral worldview

Some circumstances drive us to the limits of our understanding of the world. We find out questions that have no answers, and deep inside we feel the answer requires some strange efforts and this make us feel scared. The allusions from the unknown and invisible world appear like flashes of memories from unknown past and disappear at once.

For everybody of us comes the time to learn dharma. You want it or not, but it comes. It offers you a range of difficulties, unbelievable pain and disappointment in your normal life. You might try not to notice the limits of understanding of the world, and deepen more and more in the daily routine, renounce happiness, dreams, aspirations. But the Black Hole in your chest you cannot ignore anymore.

Teacher. As soon as you are ready, you meet your teacher. He or She gives you lessons of your dharma. The new worldview. Which explains the unknown and invisible world which is, as it occurs, more real and even only real, than the world you used to call yours. Dharma is the new law you have to perceive. It’s the law of the new You, the spiritual You. It’s the strategy and the path. It’s the way to be happy.

Integral worldview – is dharma, which gives new instruments, new practice, new thinking and understanding, and reveals your Real I. It’s not an easy way, because you have to learn living from the very beginning, as if you had to be born again. Each thought, each belief has to be revised. Each relation, each argue, each offence… It requires you to turn yourself inside out.

Integral worldview as dharma – it’s a spiritual self-realization beyond religions and philosophies, although it never negates them.What’s more – it uses their practices and methods to grasp the consciousness, the Self awareness, the integrity of all levels of being – from the Absolute, spiritual thin energies to the heavy material reality, which seems to be really “real”. Dharma – is our duty to find out who we are, why we are here, and how can we live a happy life, if it’s possible. Well, yep, it’s possible. Really happy life is being really You, with all Your real goals, tasks, relations, realizations, creativity, joy, love.

You might hate the world LAW, but there are laws your soul live according to and it finds joy and happiness from fulfilling this duty. It’s a tasty, happy, joyful obligation. As soon as you find them, you won’t be able to forget the trembling in your heart – your eternal soul feels higher pleasure and it fills your body and mind. You then understand: that is it! You feel yourself at home.

Happiness is … in the detail

The strange February weather brought us many surprises. The spiders and ladybirds are awaken and make much fuss all around. They are so delicate and tiny, but reveal so much life and creativity. I can observe the same spider each morning on my floor, examining the space, while I’m trying to concentrate on my meditation (my third eye is always open!). He (or she) probably has no idea about my existence and what’s worse, about my spiritual attempts. And ladybirds like my woolen mat under the worktable.

The sun is rare guest in Carpatia, when the temperatures are high, the mists and clouds cover the mountains like a heavy blanket. The flocks of all possible varieties of birds rush from one point to another, forming amazing waves and spirals in the air. They have enough food, entertainment, the air is warm. They seem to be countless.

The winds actuates the lazy sleepy trees. Maybe they would prefer to stay a bit more hibernated, but no way. They are shaken, tossed, wrung, stroked.

The streets are totally empty. There’s still no work in the fields, no shopping malls, and no holiday. Otherwise some people would appear to go to the church. It’s an occasion to put on new nice clothes, arrange some nice hairdo and drive a car.

Only dense white smoke from the chimneys indicates the presence of others.

I’m observing the world, birds, people, mountains and trains through the window. I’ve caught a nasty cold and have totally no intention to go out. But suddenly I notice some timid sun beams. Hmm. Well, maybe I’ll go for a little walk or pop up to the shops to check the fruits and vegetables.

Living in the countryside makes one sensitive for anything artificial – smells, tastes, emotions, jokes. It teaches to find joy and happiness in perceiving and listening to the world and not imposing own rules and expectations. The latter will definitely disappoint you and the first will make you calm, far-seeing and sagacious.

From the body-oriented worldview to the integral worldview

I’ve been thinking of writing this post long ago. I was a diligent researcher on Kazimierz Dabrowki’s Theory of Positive Disintegration for the needs of my thesis about the personal development in the democratic society. I’ve read almost all his books in Polish and all possible articles in English (what an amazing personality he was!) and I highly appreciate his “stairs to heaven” – his theory about 5 levels of mental development. You can observe the systematization of something that cannot be caught and measured, but yet, he managed to do that! The subtle hierarchy of emotions, states, values and meanings is developing from level to level till the last one – Secondary Integration. I took a piece of description from Wikipedia:

“The fifth level displays an integrated and harmonious character, but one vastly different from that at the first level. At this highest level, one’s behavior is guided by conscious, carefully weighed decisions based on an individualized and chosen hierarchy of personal values. Behavior conforms to this inner standard of how life ought to be lived, and thus little inner conflict arises.”

This level is probably the most interesting for me. It sounds like a goal for every human being. The level of Secondary Integration is based on the personal and social ideal. So I suppose this ideal should be built, formulated and definitively is not spontaneous. I guess the first three levels (from second to the forth) are the chance to intuitively turn from the body-oriented worldview to the integral one.

Body-oriented worldview is based on the values of survival. But the blisses of happiness, joy, thankfulness, insights, knowledge, freedom prompt us, that there’s something more, then just survival, then just fight. We suspect, there’s something more we are born for. We contemplate stars and oceans, we listen to the moving music and feel the connection with the rest of the world. But this intuition is unspoken. we feel and seek for that feeling. Finally it’s a chance to learn some philosophy trend or religious one. Because they might bring us closer to the transcendentality. Though this awfully strange word doesn’t explain much to us, we understand, that worldview we are seeking for is something we have to define… This is unbelievably difficult thing, because this means we have to turn our whole living and thinking up side down. We have to counter our inner demons, our inborn fears and illusions.

Well, where am I driving to? We want to change our lives for better. We want to be free, happy, creative, positive. We want to change it, but we have no idea what it can be. The schoolboy cannot imagine what life looks like when you are a student. But he knows, he should go step by step learning new subjects and new paradigm. Why do we suppose new better life is something less difficult? We have to become pupils and students and study the science of life. The concept of Dabrowski’s personal ideal on the fifth level – is concrete. It has to be realized, proved, spoken, learned and kept deep inside one’s heart. And this sounds to me like making a huge, deep and thorough personal research. The most inspiring question of this research would be – what is happiness to you? What is true happiness? Let’s think of it together next time.

A year-long month

@shodashi 2016

I took a month-break from all social, science and other duties. January is normally a drunk month in Carpatia – lazy holiday atmosphere, a feeling of comon well-being, Orthodox name-days celebrated by the whole country, several New Year Eves, Epiphany, and so on and so on. Besides this year I didn’t want it to be a Groundhug’s Day, so the holiday air was just a background for my activities. But how can I call the activity something that is done inside me? I can only point out some theses that caught my mind.

MENTAL HEALTH. What is the factor that breaks all our happy life theories? The fact of our death. You can like it or not, but we all die. At the end. But the other funny fact is that the end is sudden. Let’s imagine, you’ve been told you have only half a year left. Your actions? Go and entertain yourself as never before? Escape in some monastery? Rent a place on the Ganges bank? Finally start thinking of your vocation in life? Get depressed and angry with God? Or learning immediately what it means to die and what one should do to prepare oneself to this act?